When I Meet People And Tell Them I'm Gay?

Before I meet people I tell them straight up that i'm gay and I make sure that they are ok with this. So When I meet them in person they always assume i'm going to be really feminine %26amp; "sweet". Then when I tell them that i'm not like that they are shocked. Why do some people stereotype gay people this way? Are you quilty of doing this yourself? :)

When I Meet People And Tell Them I'm Gay?
People have already formed opinions about all types of people.


They think if you're Black, you're going to be loud, obnoxious, and arrogant; Asian, you're good at math; White, well spoken, and gay, you are flamboyant and flaunt it like the stereotypical gay 'character' does.


This is why people don't need to judge others by the people they run into and assume that everyone like the person they meet are going to be all the same.


I'll admit, I get loud when my son's are playing ball. I get obnoxious when I see injustice against someone with a disability, and I am arrogant in thinking that my children are the best looking boys on the earth. All of these things are true of me, but they don't all come out at the same time. When a person runs into someone that displays these tendencies, they just naturally 'lump' all the other people of that race, orientation, or nationality to be the same way.


That's why it's so important that people not judge an entire group by some of the idiots WE'RE ashamed of in how they act. I have a lot of gay male friends who are masculine, smart, and don't do the 'two snaps with a twist'. They are well educated and know how to act in public.


We let our hair down, don't think that we don't, but we have a little more refinement when it comes to being in public; hence, they know how to be gentlemen and still be who they are.


I hope that this helps!
Reply:Why do you feel that it's necessary to tell everyone that you are gay, even before you meet them? Is it relevant? I mean, I don't tell everyone that I'm straight. It sounds like a challenge to me. "Hi, I'm Gay, got a problem with that"? Why do you "make sure" they are OK with it? Do you engage in sexual behavior with everyone you meet? Do you only associate with people who approve of homosexuality? It seems to me that being gay or straight would be just an incidental fact in your ordinary life. What has it got to do with anything? I meet hundreds of people in my everyday life, and I've never one time needed to know the sexual orientation of the person I'm talking to, nor was I inclined to ask. Even if I know a person is gay or straight, what possible difference does it make? I just don't get the focus on sex preferences.
Reply:I grew up with lesbians in my family, so I can't answer the second part of your question. But as for the first, its probably that they've only seen gays on television and such, which stereotypes horribly. (As they do for most "groups.")





I grew up in a very rural area and city people often act shocked when I can form intelligent sentences for the same reason.
Reply:why do you have the need to tell people this? i don't go up to people and tell them who i screw. i dont care who you screw.
Reply:those people are loser they shouldn't care what a person is because if they really wanted to be friends they would look past that
Reply:Why do you do that? When I meet people I don't say am straight...its not like I plan on flirting with everyone.