How do I meet new people???????? I'm having a hard time.?

Recently all of my friends moved and now I am having a hard time meeting people.My friend came and visited me this weekend and told me I have to stop keeping myself in my shell and get out and meet people and that she is really worried for me. I am very reserved and have a hard time opening up to people..even my close friends. I am worried too!However I hate going out to bars. It's like I want to reach out to people however I feel it is easier to turn inward and become a hermit. I am very lonely and spend almost every waking alone. Help!!

How do I meet new people???????? I'm having a hard time.?
I can relate with you as even I am an introvert but I try my best to step out of the comfort zone. Make a conscious effort everyday to say Hi to everyone you know. That would improve your confidence with the people you know. Once you realise you are being accepted by them, you will slowly gain confidence and then you can try the same with meeting new people. A casual talk on the weather or the surrounding is the perfect ice-breaker. Its all in the mind, and once you conquer it no one can stop you from being an extrovert.
Reply:If you don't want to go out and meet people, you'll have to do it online. There are tons of sites to meet people, I have met many over the years. You just have to be open to new ideas. You don't want to spend all your time alone. Not sure how old you are though?
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Reply:I have found a good place, it is called www.myspace.com you can find people locally of similar interests, maybe even freinds you lost contact with. It is free, and fun.


It is extremely hard to meet people in public places. Bars are usually good because alchohol can be a helper. go check out local music scene, and you will find some freinds!


good luck
Reply:Where in Cali? I know lots of great people for you to meet...
Reply:Smack a cop in the mouth! You`ll meet all kinds of NEW and "INTERESTING" people!
Reply:MYSPACE....


HAHA... yeah myspace.com...


its an internet community...the biggest in the world... america canada, australia, Uk, South Africa, everywhere...
Reply:Network… go to the places you like, where you fell good and safe.


Join a club, bookstores, and believe it or not coffee shops as well as music stores are great, safe places to meet people.
Reply:Go to the mall and just talk to people.
Reply:join some kinda yahoo group....start chatting with some one on the yahoo messenger....
Reply:I am one year younger than u, and i face the same problem. I was an introvert and not one any more. I have changed since the time i became a lecturer in a college. But i still find it difficult to make friends with people, all the friends i had are married and have no time for me. Even if i like someone and want to talk to, i go near them but i find it very difficult to bring my self to begin a conversation with them. I dont no what to do. The only person i feel comfortable is with my mom. I guess i will be like this the rest of my life.