How do I meet people when I have no interests?

I'm very shy and do not have any friends. I want to start trying to meet people.





The problem is I have no interests at all. One of the first things people are going to ask when I meet them is what my interests are. If I don't have an answer it will scare people away. But I don't want to lie as I don't think that will help.





I think if I could meet some people and find out what their interests are it could help me to find an interest myself, but I need to meet people first. It's a horrible conundrum.

How do I meet people when I have no interests?
I am guessing you are around 20? I was extemelly shy at that age. I think you need to look at and try to fix the reason for your shyness. I think shyness is basically a part of your subconscious saying 'I am not good enough'. That constricts everything, and stops your personality from flowing out, and puts you in a bad light so you feel even more embarrassed. Where did the feeling of inferiority come from? I think probably during your childhood you have been given the message that you didnt measure up and you have taken it on board. You need to question if that message is true? Perhaps you were a lot more sensitive than others, and because they valued toughness over the great qualities you had they gave negative feedback (The Highly Sensitive Person should be read if you think this applies to you). Whatever the reason I promise you its false. We are all seeds who are meant to grow into the best we can be - shyness can blight that seed, BUT THE SEED IS GOOD. So just be how you feel, just be you, dont worry about what other people think - how they develope their own growth or lack of is their problem - your responsibility is your own - let others slide off your back. Be natural, dont put up a front. Seek counselling to help you understand and challenge the inferiority feelings - dont waste time in getting down to challenging the problem, this is a serious problem that could ruin yr life, but even if it seems hopeless I promise you it isnt - get to work on solving it as your first priority. As for a place to meet people, I would suggest a church, possibly a pentacostal one, as a busy church is one were you can get involved in behind the scenes activities, and you will go week after week, giving friendly people a chance to get to know you. Usually after the service ppl will talk for a while - the perfect time to meet new people. Just go up, say hello, ask some questions - soon things will spark. Good Luck!!
Reply:well


Do you like music , growing veges in the garden . Leather . Reading , Movies . evidently you are interested in breathing . { sorry, just trying to lighten the mood }. If you were to take the time for yourself you may find that you are interested in all types of things .. Hey computers . Do you like comedy ? Give yourself a break and be yourself . Its not that hard to meet people . Just go to where you know you may have something in common with them . Like for example .. If you like music . There is a great music site i came across called TRIG.COM and it will give you the ability to meet people that you have that in common with.. If you can't get people to come to you .. Then go to them %26gt; and remember not everyone will like you . But I'm sure most will if you get it yourself out there
Reply:are you sure? maybe you like animals? or, youd surely like music right?
Reply:I'm not really interested in alot either, at least not enough to say "this is one of my interests". Usually when I get that question, I say "lots of things....what are you interested in?" and flip the question back on them.
Reply:It is so sad not to have anyone you can confide in, talk to or share with. Friends are some of the most important people in your life and personally, I could not live without them. A great way to meet new people is through family or family friends, through meeting at local events or places. If someone asks you what your interests are, you just answer truthfully, obviously you must have some interests, meeting new people, reading, dreaming, dancing, art, just anything that you find interesting. Then you should ask the same question back. You could always answer "I always hate that question, because it seems like you need to have an interest to define yourself" or something witty like that. That could stir another conversation.
Reply:You need to loosing yourself abit. Some people are your shoes. Though, it's a horrible situation to be since no man is an island of himself. Don't be afraid to meeting people and don't think that individual interest must always come first. You could meet someone and try discussing something else. Or you listen to the fellow where he or she talks about things that captivated him or her and then build one from there. Utilise your time reading, watching films, surfing the internet, swimming and from then you will get interested in something and would want to share it with others. Hope this works
Reply:there is no way that you have no interest at anything.





you don't like anything at all? NOTHING??!!





not movies? tv? sports? music? reading? singing? acting? traveling? playing games? MEETING PEOPLE? MAKING FRIENDS?





if non, then you are either a robot, or not worth living%26gt;
Reply:Just answer everything they ask u naturally. If they r really friends whom u can make or trust, they would not even bother wat u said its just the trust between people. :)
Reply:try different activities out and at those places you will meet people who enjoy doing them.


Try rollerblading, rock climbing, ice skating, sleding, boating, parachuting and bungie jumping, video game arcade, putt putt, driving range, go the bar and clubs, bowling, strip club, casino, biking, walking dog in the park, swimming, pool hall.


Google things to do in your area. There may be a city singles mingle in your area.


Have fun and good luck! :)
Reply:you must have an interest!


computers, Internet etc.


but if you don't try and join a group in school, if have a local community center go there.


you will learn a new interest and also make friends with similar interests


please don't feel that you should meet people over the Internet as its not safe, its much safer to join a group in your community..


hope i helped!
Reply:how do you spend your free time then? You know like if it's your day-off from work or during school breaks if you're a student. How about the interest to meet people!? How can you meet people if you're not interested in the first place. Why not tell them you're interested to meet people. Then start to know about them.....try to know them because you're really genuinely interested to get to know them.
Reply:theres not one single thing that is interesting to you,thats kinda sad
Reply:what about computer/ internet/ Yahoo Answers, are you not intrested in any of these, you must have used them to ask this question, everyone has interests but it may be hard to identify them!
Reply:Just say, I'm interested in what the future holds... Or, You are open to finding new interests...That type of thing.